People need to stop hatin' on Valentine's Day.
I know... you're single and you don't want to see other people getting roses and candy and lovey dovey notes while you sit at your desk and wait for them to finally stop making strange ooey ahhey noises and looking at you to see if you agree with how "sweet" their significant other is. Me too. However, despite how my comments on Valentine's Day look thus far, I refuse to be embittered by this saintly holiday where we celebrate Love. I have chosen instead to re-invent this holiday for myself.
Valentine's Day in the land of Abby will no longer be:
-a place where cards are bought at ridiculous prices and immediately thrown away, causing an almost audible groan from the ground at the amount of carbon footprints forming.
-a time when young single people (particularly of the lady variety) look sad all day and think how much better their lives would be if they had a lovah. (This sentiment has a large potential for being decidedly false. Just sayin'.)
-a time when, rather than looking sad, young single people look very mad all day and curse the ground that lovers walk on. This is equally as bothersome and makes me want to point a finger straight at them (point blank) and say "Look you, love might be just around the corner!"
Instead...Valentine' Day in the land of Abby will be:
-a place where everyone sees this day as a spacious field of opportunity to LOVE LOVE LOVE all day long and not sweat any of the small stuff.
-a time when young people celebrate being young and having love to give.
-a time when people of the lady variety look at themselves and see how much about them is wonderful and worth loving, even if there is no hand to hold currently.
-a day when said ladies encourage other ladies to live their lives fully and unabashedly...whether they are in a relationship or not.
I have a dream, ladies and gentlemen, for Valentine's Day!
Seriously though, I know this day can be hard...I'm single and I understand those feelings...but come on. The buck stops here. Start celebrating the love that IS in your life and stop focusing on the love that has yet to come.
And now, if I were Linus, I'd pick up my blue blanket and walk away.
"Valentines day in the land of abby will no longer be a place where cards are bought at ridiculous prices and immediately thrown away, causing an almost audible groan from the ground at the amount of carbon footprints forming."
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for the last 3 years, I have always made my cards and thought creatively for a gift to give her. Even though I am not an artist. it's the thought that counts right?
I actually wanted to throw up in my mouth yesterday on my lunch at work as I was walking through the NG mall to go to chipotle. There was an ad that said "buy her the love that she deserves...something something something" It really pissed me off. It was a valentines ad for a giftcard to some store.
...irritating. We live in such a culture of where being busy is something that is awesome and important like it's so great to be so busy. I can't spend 12 hours with a friend, just hanging out and enjoying them. It's such a value that we are at the point where important things like expressing our love for our spouse or significant other gets reduced to a monetary transaction that takes 30 seconds. rather than an action that requires time, effort, and thought.
the perspective of time is something I really miss in the latin cultures and in Europe. Ha in fact Amanda and I skyped with friends of ours from Romania last saturday. it was a 3.5 hour session that lasted the whole afternoon...we really wanted to get on with our day after like an hour. But we held out in great romanian fashion, because that is what they do...they want to spend time with you. Much more than you probably will want to give them.
Glad to see you writing again, and glad to see you have such a good perspective on Vday as a single person.
and if i was sally, i'd follow you.
ReplyDeletegreat post, Abigail!